Why Should You Love Yourself First?
What Does Loving Yourself Mean
Loving yourself entitles a lot of aspects of your life. It means giving yourself what you need in order to thrive.
Even though you should always remember that this should come to the cost of no one.
Self-love is a very commercial topic lately and companies use it to sell products to you.
What we need to learn is that in order to love ourselves we don’t need any products we just need a little bit of mental space.
According to the Brain and behavior research foundation:
“Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological, and spiritual growth.”
How Can You Show Love To Yourself
Showing self-love to oneself comes from the inside.
It means taking time from your schedule to dedicate to oneself. This can be in the form of meditation appreciating ourselves and showing gratitude to our bodies.
It can also be by empowerment in wearing clothing that you love or really admiring yourself while working out.
You show love to yourself when you let yourself rest and admire the power that you have.
Self-love especially happens when you stop judging yourself. You stop judging yourself when you stop picking and prodding when looking at the mirror looking at all the imperfections you can think of.
You need to stop speaking to yourself with a degrading negative language and start putting yourself high. This also comes from consciously putting in the body things that are good for you and healthy.
Respect yourself.
The most important part of self-love is putting yourself first. Always put your mental health first than anyone else.
What Happens If You Don’t Show Yourself Love?
If you don’t show yourself love you start engaging in self-degrading activities that can lead to a big rip in your mental health.
When you are not loving yourself and giving your body the attention it needs it falls apart.
Think about it you are pretty much like a plant or a dog that needs to be taken care of in order to survive and look healthy and put-together. This doesn’t mean that you have made others take care of you. You are the caregiver of your body.
Not loving yourself has a huge impact on how you behave around others and the opportunities the universe brings us.
It is perfectly fine to have moments of self-doubt and moments in which we don’t feel comfortable to ourselves. But ultimately we have to remember that those moments pass by and we have to be grateful to ourselves that we are able to bounce back into our lives and carry on.
Happiness is a key factor that is affected when you don’t show love and appreciation to yourself. Your happiness might go away and this makes everything worse.
We need to ultimately learn to love ourselves no matter what. We are always going to find something that we don’t like about ourselves but if we keep complaining about it we are only going to start getting bothered by it more and more
Why Do You Come First Before Others?
You are always going to come first to yourself than others. Before you try to fix anyone else’s problems focus on your own.
Is there anything really important that you have to take care of yourself before you are in the right mental state to help others? This is crucially important.
If you are not in the right mental state, meaning that you are not in the emotional position to hear someone’s problems, then don’t.
You need to understand that you come first and that putting the weight of other people’s problems on your shoulders when you are drowning you is not going to help you or the person you are trying to help.
Give yourself love and take some space and time for yourself.
How Can You Explain This To Other People?
Sometimes it is really hard to explain this to someone that needs you.
Be calm and explain your emotions to them. Help them understand why you are not in the position to aid them or give them advice.
Hopefully, they will understand that you need to concentrate on yourself for a second. This is especially true for relationships you have to be emotionally healthy more or less in order to not affect the relationship with the person or your partner directly.
When explaining this to people try using analogies. They help explain in other words how you are unable to help you when you are down.
For example, your leg is broken and you can’t stand up, your friend just broke their leg too, or their arm.
They might not know your leg is broken, but if you tell them they are going to understand that you are unable to stand up and help them.
This helps people grasp the concept of mental health since we normally can’t see any physical harm at first sight and it is normally inside.
Now that I have given you a lot of reasons why you should love yourself you should try some ways to show yourself, love. You can use a journal to document your journey to self-love.
Expressing emotions also helps a lot of people. When you are in doubt of what can you do at a low point try closing your eyes and meditate for a few minutes.
It always works, it calms you down and allows you to acknowledge your surroundings.
Learn how to take time for yourself and remember to always put yourself first.
