10 Important Things to Say to Your Partner When They Are Feeling Down

The importance of caring about your partner

 When you have someone that you love a lot and appreciate you want to make sure that they are okay. If they are feeling down you feel like cheering them up. Your partner will probably appreciate a lot the attention that you are going to give to them. They will most likely reciprocate when you are in need. Cheering your partner up when they are feeling down is one of the most important things in a relationship. It shows you are there for each other when in need.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that they get to drag you down with them and that you must feel upset. You can do the opposite and bring them out of the hole they are in. Ultimately you are the one that knows best what would make them happy, but here are some examples that you should say to ensure that they know that you are there to help. 

10 things to say to your partner:

1.“I am here, don’t forget that.”

This reassures your partner that you are present and right next to them. This makes them feel safe and taken care of. When you can’t do much about how your partner is feeling, reassuring them that you are there to support them will make it better.

2.“If you need anything don’t doubt to ask.”

Sometimes when people are feeling down they want to be alone to process their feelings. You can leave them alone, of course if that is what they desire, but make sure to state that you will also be there for them when they ask for it. Also they might just want some water or a little bit of snacks to go through whatever is happening to them.

3.“No matter what happens I will always love you.”

If your partner is going through something that will probably affect you as well, they might feel like they are failing you. This could be something like losing a job or doing something that bothers you. Just assure them that even if you are fighting or if they are sad because they are worried about your reaction, that you will still love them because your love doesn’t depend on that.

4.“Your worries are valid, I am listening to you.”

When your partner decides to open up about what they are going through you can try to constantly reassure that you understand them and that you are listening to them. This will make them feel like what they are saying is not nonsense.

5.“Emotions are temporary, this will pass.”

If they are feeling overwhelmed you can use this phrase. It is not to undermine their feelings but to assure them that all is temporary and that they will feel happy again soon.

6.“You can trust yourself, you know exactly what to do.”

When your partner is doubting themselves you can say this to assure them that not only should they trust themselves in what they are doing, but that you also trust them.

7.“Everything happens for you, not to you, this will bring you something much better.”

This phrase will help your partner understand that even when something negative happens to you it will bring you something more positive or even way better than what they are maybe losing.

8.“I’m going to get you some water, and your favorite snack.”

Sometimes bringing your partner what you know they need or love without them asking will make them feel appreciated and loved. Not to mention that it will cheer them up.

9.“Let’s meditate together.”

This is a way to include yourself in the solution of their problems. It will show that you care for their wellbeing and that you are actively searching to help them relax and look away from their worries.

10. “Explain to me why are you feeling this way.”

Listening to your partner when they are feeling down is the most important step. Especially when you ask them about it and not when they have to spill it out to you because they can’t contain their emotions any longer. It is healthier for the both of you.

Conclusion

Making your partner feel understood and loved is a priority when they are feeling down. Being there to support them through their hardships will make them feel appreciated and important. Make sure that when you are feeling down you get the same treatment that you are giving, it will not only make you feel better but also your partner for being there for you. If your partner has different boundaries set for when they are feeling down, respect them.