how to foster trust within you to be in the present moment?
There is a lot of conversation around trust in this blog because I want this to be a home, a safe space. Most importantly, I want you to be your own home and your owns safe space so that you can go through life and experience it with the least fear possible. Without feeling like you are leaving home (whatever it is for you) all over again.
I am not talking about blindly trusting others, but about creating a trust in yourself. The type of trust that you create has to be one that goes on top of it all. Betraying your own trust is fighting against yourself and denying yourself what you deserve.
As the days pass, we realize that those that are the most content with their lives, those that feel the most alive, are those that can stay in the present moment?
The present is our current reality. Your current reality is that you are reading this post in your little corner of the world and receiving this information as a reflection or perception of yourself.
Your current reality also represents everything that you are thinking and feeling in this moment as you are reading these words. Don’t hide your emotions, don’t hide your thoughts as they will guide you through the experience of trust that you can find within you.
Why we escape the present moment and what does it have to do with trust?
Has it ever happened to you that you are having a real life experience, whether that is being in a group setting with friends, or by yourself talking a walk and you suddenly become conscious of your own existence? You get this moment of “wow I’m alive and I am talking to people. Who are these people?” This type of awareness often shoots us off our present moment and into our heads. Of course, it is exciting and eye-opening to wonder about our own reality. It becomes existential and we wonder how is it we are.
This place or dimension that we enter makes us curious, but it also leaves us feeling a bit empty. We get in our heads and we have a separate conversation. Overthinking and wondering if everything around us will work out exactly as we wanted it to work out.
We place our attention within us; we see ourselves from a different perspective and suddenly we are out of our bodies and we have left the present moment. At this moment, it’s as if there were a screen between you and the outside world. What is around us feels far a way and even detached from what we are experiencing within us.
Personally, it is really hard to bring myself back to reality.
I believe that one thing that triggers this is that we start to question our reality itself. We either not trust our ability to handle what is in front of us because it is bad or we don’t trust our ability to handle what is in front of us because it seems too good.
Of course, this all comes from what we believe we deserve and we don’t.
When we believe we deserve something, we can handle the good feelings that come along. We open up to it because we can trust that we can handle what comes with it. When we don’t trust ourselves to do this, we close off.
We shut away from the things that we love or are grateful for because there is no trust within us to receive all the good and all the bad and still be okay with who we are.
This can have a big impact on how we experience the most significant moments in our lives. It can sometimes make us feel guilty for not knowing how to fully be there or for feeling like we are missing out on our own lives when we don’t even understand why.
And as I said before, just as we need to trust ourselves to handle the good, we also need to trust ourselves to handle the bad and even the mundane and the boring.
Trust and the present moment
We need to be okay, trusting ourselves enough to receive anything that comes from the present moment. Whether that be good or bad, the point is to accept it and welcome every second for what it is and be able to find a sense of calm from moment to moment with an inner knowledge that we are going to be okay.
This obviously comes with practice. It is something that we need to encourage within ourselves. It is a moment that we need to capture mid air and try to make the most out of.
The present moment is our reality. It is our current life and our eye opening flow of existence.
I could go on and on about how great the present moment (which I kinda do) but the concise idea that I want you to have is:
The present moment is the only space in which we can truly exist. The other spaces in which we throw ourselves into are within our heads, and as we do that, we are exiting our bodies. Our bodies are the ones that have the opportunity to experience all these feelings and all of these sensations which keep us grounded. So to go into our minds fully and leave our body is to leave our present moment and leaving our own lives.
When we trust ourselves, we have an open heart. Even if it is an open heart to be hurt, an open heart to be fulfilled. An open heart is an open heart. An open heart allows us to welcome the emotions that surge from our experiences. That open heart can only come from full trust within ourselves to be vulnerable, and from a well-rounded understanding of what being human means.
Trust yourself to be, to exist in the present moment.
To feel within you that you can live the human experience no matter what comes your way and face it with arms open because you know you get to be part of it. You know that as much as you are going down a painful path or the most exciting one, you will be open to both, as they are both human experiences. Not to forget to mention being open also to all of those seconds that seem irrelevant.
We also tend to leave our bodies and go back into our heads when we feel like nothing exciting is happening in our lives. We forget that welcoming the present moment is not only about welcoming the moments that are most Instagrammable or feel the most relatable, but about welcoming every single one of them.
Going into our heads is inevitable. There will be moments in which we will overthink or we will get overwhelmed that shoot us right up into that part that is afraid to be living in the now.
Those are the moments in which we look for our own trust and create a path back int our bodies.
Trust and boundaries
With trusting the present moment and trusting ourselves comes creating our own rules for ourselves. Boundaries are important, as they are the path that guides us to the way we want to live our present moments. When we trust ourselves, we learn our limits. We get to know ourselves what we like and what we don’t. The application of that knowledge is the boundaries we create as we learn who we are.
The boundaries that we set allow us to be conscious of how we trust ourselves and how we handle the hard things that often come with the present moment. It is about living the life but it is also about considering that when hard moments come, we can create the space for ourselves to be safe and move through the emotions that come to us.
Creating a space that feels like comfort but in an expansive way. Comfort within but exploration without. Making a home out of our inner world and feeling at home with whom we are. Our inner home is the deepest sign of trust we can have.
We trust ourselves when we create boundaries in our lives that allow us to interact with the others and with the world in a way that makes everything flow.
Co-create with our boundaries to make the present moment somewhere we want to be in. We do the same with our inner home, which we carry with us. This doesn’t mean withdrawing within us, but being the home itself as we walk through different phases in life.
At the end of the day, living in the present moment is feeling alive. There are thoughts that we have to go through and emotions that we have to feel and ponder on but when we allow them to be a part of the present moment instead of just keeping them for a future that doesn’t really exist then we welcome a whole another side of us to the present. We welcome us, our own home, and our own trust to experience life with us.
You create your reality based on how well you allow yourself to exist. I know it sounds weird, maybe even existential, but refer to these two posts to make more sense out of it:
Freedom in anonymity
Allocate space within you for your desires, allocate space within you for your reality. Become your own safe space so that you can explore the world and your human existence without fear.
Prompts
5 prompts to trust yourself in the present moment
- As you go out to the world, how do you also go within your own body? How do you welcome your reality as you welcome your being?
- What boundaries have you set between you and other people that allow you to “put yourself out there”?
- In what ways can you welcome your emotions in the present moment without wanting to make sense of them in that moment? What is your inner script for these situations?
- What scares you the most about opening your heart to the present moment?
- What rules and boundaries can you add to your inner home that opens up your existence even more?
Stay in the present moment, in the thoughts and the emotions that come up with these questions and with this blog. Feel deeply for yourself, because when you feel deeply, you are present. Welcome your human existence with the most open heart.
That is what the Trust Pathway will help you with. It will help you reconnect with that side of you so that it starts growing again along with the leaves and the flowers.
March is a month of a lot of change and a lot of new beginnings. Let this reconnection with your own trust your own home and your present moment be one of them.
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